Fulfillment and Title
This morning I read a chapter of Sadhguru’s book – Karma and strongly feel the resonance with the following paragraphs.
The human equation was always meant to be like this: to move from being to doing to having. This means we were never meant to act in order to find fulfillment. Filfillment was seen as an inner condition. It could not be pursued externally. We act in order to express our fulfillment, not to acquire it. We act in order to celebrate our inner completeness, not to pursue it.~~Sadhguru, Karma
For most people, however, this simple equation is reversed.
Most people do in order to be. They act because they feel incomplete. Their action is prompted by a desire to acquire something or to enhance their identity in some way. This is the ancient hunter-gatherer impulse, which still endures in human beings. It is the need to act in order to accumulate—–whether it is physical, emotional, or intellectual satisfaction. It is action impelled by a desire to augment themselves, to become more than what they are. They act in order to have; they have in order to be.
This is tragic.
Most people have already determined what they want to have. Therefore, their doing is invariably to acquire something. Someone wants to earn fame so they might get into the movies or write a book, for instance. Their identity is now film star or author. They identify with this label. It now determines their being….
I am not doing in order to acquire an identity. The way I am is untouched by what I do. I am not a yogi because I teach yoga. It is not my activity that makes me a yogi. It is my being that makes me a yogi. Yogi is a description of my inner dondition, not my activity.
When you live like this, who you are always communicates itself in its own subtle way to people. The fragrance of who you are always gets conveyed. People sense that I am operating from this place of inner freedom even if they don’t understand how it works.
Today, everyone is obsessed with a title, especially on social media platforms. It is as if we all need a title in order to let the world know who we are. On Instagram, we can see people with multiple titles in their descriptions of themselves. Sometimes, I can’t help feeling they are just labels. Posting a picture with a yoga pose or one sitting on the meditation cushion becomes hip. However, besides the beautiful image, I crave to know what’s underneath the beautiful image. I don’t want to know your label, but your core.
Many podcasts, Youtube videos and books focus so much on doing and having. There are many ways of doing something in order to have something. I used to work so hard on trying all sorts of self-improving methods, learning all the new concepts, and implementing them in my life. However, I often feel exhausted and empty inside and most of the time, I fell back to the old patterns easily.
The point is not with willpower to push through obstacles.
The point is inside of my core. If my being is anxious, whatever I do, only shows my anxiety. It’s not easy to just be, especially with myself. I realized all the doing and striving to have something are only the escape from the real core issue, my being.
Last year, I finally convinced myself to slow down and start to listen to my body, heart and soul. I learned so much about myself in this process. Gradually, I went doing and being busy all the time to being slow and aware of what my being is going through in the moment. It’s still an ongoing process to change this ancient impulse.
I am still learning and experiencing this fulfillment from my being and how it affects my actions in the world. Quite an interesting journey.
The Power Behind Our Life Directions
This article is by Bert Hellinger. It brought up what I was pondering about free will and fate.
“As we are near a goal on our familiar rails, when we are nearly there, seeing it already, sometimes the direction of our train changes unexpectedly. Someone set the points differently. Our train suddenly takes another direction.
Can we do anything about the points being set differently? Can we plan the changes ourselves or prevent them? We have no say in it. The change in direction comes so suddenly and unexpectedly, our train is already on another track, being run by other powers that want another direction and have already made the decision.
The question is: Can we set the points for others and for their train so that their train goes in the direction we had planned for them? Can parents do this for their children perhaps? Can a man or a woman do this for his or her partner? Or perhaps a politician for his or her country?
Sometimes it may look that way, at least in the beginning. But where will the train end up after all? Does it go further? Does it perhaps end up where the points were supposed to lead in another direction, and does the next setting of the point perhaps begin at the beginning of the old direction?
Should we, or can we, try once more, doing it ourselves next time? Or do we arrive at the understanding that a power is at work beyond each one of us, setting the points for us and everyone else, according to the fate it has decreed for every human being? Then here, too, we need to see this power at work, and we must submit to it without conditions.
What follows from these deliberations for us and for our relationships, as heartfelt as they may be?
We continue traveling on our life’s train, however, the points may be set over the course of time. At the same time, we see how in the life of others from time to time their train’s points are set in a way that their train suddenly takes a new direction, and we cannot tell where it will go and we have no say in it.
How do we still remain connected with them? By agreeing to their life’s journey wherever it takes them. Perhaps parallel to ours for a while, then diverging and moving away from us; later on, after some time, perhaps in the same direction again, yet different from how it was before.
Through the new direction both return differently into the parallel direction, side by side differently and hand in hand differently. How? Matured, both of them.”
(Sunday Contemplations, May 2012)
What’s Fire Ceremony?
Fire has the transformational power for rapid change. Having Fire Ceremony is a great way to let go of the old story, unwanted memory, negative emotion or old belief structure. When we stand in front of fire, we can ask for purification and let go of whatever doesn’t serve us anymore.
The best time for Fire Ceremony is during season changes, like the equinox, New Moon, Full Moon or New Year. It’s the best time to let go of the old and to welcome the new.Read More